i have gone the extra mile for years including taking care of the house and family. no, not to the extent that she probably does but then again, she does not work full time like me so something has to give. i don't believe it is just her responsibility but in her mind, my responsibility is to go out and make a living so she can live in a nice house and spend the money and then have me come home and do the chores. however there is no reciprocation in the bedroom. i won't leave due to the kids but i certainly don't mind playing on the side at this point. yes we have talked about it and it goes in one ear and out the other so spare me the "you should talk to her about this" shit. deep down, i don't think she would care if i did play around as long as the paychecks keep coming in. when the kids get older and move on though, she may and probably will find herself without my paycheck coming in because i will be gone by then. yes it will be expensive but yes it will be worth it.