Husband's PORN Habit

[hypnotistcollector]

Well, I'll be damned - something we agree on.

For anyone interested, go into Google, type in tantrachair, click the first link that comes up for tantrachair and click it. When that slide loads, click 'positions' and watch. Then click film and watch the entire film with your spouse, s.o. or sex partner. I defy ANYone to tell me this isn't healthy eroticism for a couple to share. And remember, it doesn't have to be a married couple (since I'm not married but very healthily involved). HGood sex makes for happy, joyful living.

I’m sure there are many other things that we agree on. You know what my issue with you is. As I told Libs, I’m not into humiliation or degradation of any kind. Crudeness no, lewdness yes, in an appropriate manner.

We have created a wonderful little world, hold each other in the highest esteem. We would feel the same way if we weren’t married. And it just so happens my husband is standing behind me and laughing as I type this. And yes, we have seen the Tantra Chair and it is HOT! We’re trying to figure out a way to fit it into our décor short of having a ‘red room’ – LOL!

 

[Original Zin]

I'm pleased to see people stepping forward and making the point that erotica has a healthy and rightful place in the American home. For too long people have equated any thing other than Presbyterian, vanilla sex as an evil or as something not found in real love.

We aren't married but she is my live-in S.O. and we feel we have a more committed relationship than many, if not most, married couples. We watch erotic but not degrading porn together. We've explored some of the things described in 50 Shades of Grey in a healthy and playful manner. We plan further exploration and bask in the excitement brought on by the thought of that together on a regular basis.

We've made our own list of 'rules' a la Christian Grey and Anastasia. We copied the list of 'Do both consent to' items thay checked off and we each answered them together in each others' company while looking each other straight in the eye. We have a copy of ours tucked away. We have our safewords, we know each other intimately and we trust each other intimately far beyond your average boundaries of trust. I love her and she loves me. We are completely secure and looking forward to a fun, loving life together as we enjoy the wonders of nature with each other and no subject is beyond our range of allowable discussion.

The difference between porn & erotica is like the difference between an old, banged up Ford Fiesta and a brand new BMW. We know we have the best and are loving it. My sincere wish is that you can make the '3rd down conversion' with this man from porn to classy erotica shared between the 2 of you.

I wish you the best.

 

[libluvsbukkake]

I'm pleased to see people stepping forward and making the point that erotica has a healthy and rightful place in the American home. For too long people have equated any thing other than Presbyterian, vanilla sex as an evil or as something not found in real love.

We aren't married but she is my live-in S.O. and we feel we have a more committed relationship than many, if not most, married couples. We watch erotic but not degrading porn together. We've explored some of the things described in 50 Shades of Grey in a healthy and playful manner. We plan further exploration and bask in the excitement brought on by the thought of that together on a regular basis.

We've made our own list of 'rules' a la Christian Grey and Anastasia. We copied the list of 'Do both consent to' items thay checked off and we each answered them together in each others' company while looking each other straight in the eye. We have a copy of ours tucked away. We have our safewords, we know each other intimately and we trust each other intimately far beyond your average boundaries of trust. I love her and she loves me. We are completely secure and looking forward to a fun, loving life together as we enjoy the wonders of nature with each other and no subject is beyond our range of allowable discussion.

The difference between porn & erotica is like the difference between an old, banged up Ford Fiesta and a brand new BMW. We know we have the best and are loving it. My sincere wish is that you can make the '3rd down conversion' with this man from porn to classy erotica shared between the 2 of you.

I wish you the best.

The "Taper Him Off" approach may actually work. When you are in the zone sexually with someone O.Z, that is true intimacy.

 

[Saint Misbehavin']

I really like this thread!

 

[farmaone]

Wow, love all the advice! It amazes me at the "he must not be getting it at home" claims. He could get it 7 days a week, wild, bj's, anal, etc and yet he still has to go back to the porn and ex-affair chick look-alike nude pic's. No I am not a pig, no big butt, in fact I actually get hit on when we are out. So I don't think anything is wrong with me. I have taken pretty good care of myself. The problem is him. I enjoy watching porn together, in fact it turns me on but when he violates me by what he did and then looks up nude pic's of chicks the look like the chick he cheated on me with I got a problem with that. He actually is selfish in the sack and is all about him. I am honestly not shocked at some of the responses. Gotta be males that wanna blame the chick for not giving enough or letting themselves go. Such a double standard. Do some of you men ever think how you would feel if your wife had sex with another man or had his unit in her mouth? could you move on with her? Or have you taken care of yourself? lol

 

[hypnotistcollector]

Wow, love all the advice! It amazes me at the "he must not be getting it at home" claims. He could get it 7 days a week, wild, bj's, anal, etc and yet he still has to go back to the porn and ex-affair chick look-alike nude pic's. No I am not a pig, no big butt, in fact I actually get hit on when we are out. So I don't think anything is wrong with me. I have taken pretty good care of myself. The problem is him. I enjoy watching porn together, in fact it turns me on but when he violates me by what he did and then looks up nude pic's of chicks the look like the chick he cheated on me with I got a problem with that. He actually is selfish in the sack and is all about him. I am honestly not shocked at some of the responses. Gotta be males that wanna blame the chick for not giving enough or letting themselves go. Such a double standard. Do some of you men ever think how you would feel if your wife had sex with another man or had his unit in her mouth? could you move on with her? Or have you taken care of yourself? lol

Love the way you engineered this post to gather up some of the big guns and get them all sentimental - LOL!

 

[norules4me]

I really like this thread!

Is that you Vag? You can't hide your cadence even when you try to sound like a woman.

 

[GorgeousGAMS]

Vag sent me an ad for a tantra chair with non-simulated sex, that is one of the hottest porns I have seen in a few years. As the recognized "porn expert" among my friends, I can tell you that the cliched ass-slapping, choking, and degradation porn has run it's course. Most Amateur porn can be erotic, because the couples actually kiss and interact with each other. That to me is the hottest porn.

Nope, don't agree. I love degrading violent porn and I like being tied up, whipped, written on, called dirty names and also watching stuff like that. I doubt I could even get wet watching some lovey dovey B.S. Well, unless the guy was really, really hung and hot and maybe made her hurt just a little. LOL

 

[GorgeousGAMS]

Do some of you men ever think how you would feel if your wife had sex with another man or had his unit in her mouth? could you move on with her? Or have you taken care of yourself?

My husband loves it. Look, some people just cannot be with one person it drives them insane. Too bad you may have realized too late that your husband has other interests. So, he gets a lot of sex from you. You ARE still attractive. He DID cheat and he likes to look at porn with images of girls that look just like that one. Actually, I think this is a mid life crisis. Your husband might feel his youth slipping away and feeling less than sexual or feel his sex drive going away and it scares him. So, he looks at porn to make "it" all go away and bring that moment in time when he felt the rush with his AM. Actually, I get it. That is what I do just not to the same extent. He is not going to stop unless he wants to or really thinks he is going to lose you over it and even then, he has some emotional issues going on. It is not about you.

 

[GorgeousGAMS]

Just curious as to your thoughts of couples who use it as erotica. My husband and I love to watch porn together. It's expanded our communication as lovers and that has spilled into our daily 'non-erotic' lives in simply being more open with each other on many other levels. We have no fear of intimacy and sharing sexual desires, our tastes are pretty much the same and neither of us feels threatened. We've learned a lot too. It's very arousing, for example, sitting at dinner together and whispering about something we watched and then maybe did or plan to do ourselves. We have a lot of fun with it. It keeps us feeling young and vital. We read 50 Shades together. That in itself was a great learning tool. We enjoy giving each other pleasure and it hurts no one. We're not addicts (well, maybe a little, but in a good way. LOL!) and we're pretty normal people.

You have got to be kidding. . . you are asking me what I think of watching porn together? Why? I am a crazy bitch. As far as I'm concerned, what two or three or four consenting adults want to do in their home or even outside, or in the park or the car is perfectly fine with me. LOL

 

[Saint Misbehavin']

Is that you Vag? You can't hide your cadence even when you try to sound like a woman.

Lips, you are spinning your wheel, LOL! I challenge you, Vag and anyone else to be online the same time I am! I'm ready. Set a date and a time! Bring it!

 

[Man For All Seasons]

I'm pleased to see people stepping forward and making the point that erotica has a healthy and rightful place in the American home. For too long people have equated any thing other than Presbyterian, vanilla sex as an evil or as something not found in real love.

We aren't married but she is my live-in S.O. and we feel we have a more committed relationship than many, if not most, married couples. We watch erotic but not degrading porn together. We've explored some of the things described in 50 Shades of Grey in a healthy and playful manner. We plan further exploration and bask in the excitement brought on by the thought of that together on a regular basis.

We've made our own list of 'rules' a la Christian Grey and Anastasia. We copied the list of 'Do both consent to' items thay checked off and we each answered them together in each others' company while looking each other straight in the eye. We have a copy of ours tucked away. We have our safewords, we know each other intimately and we trust each other intimately far beyond your average boundaries of trust. I love her and she loves me. We are completely secure and looking forward to a fun, loving life together as we enjoy the wonders of nature with each other and no subject is beyond our range of allowable discussion.

The difference between porn & erotica is like the difference between an old, banged up Ford Fiesta and a brand new BMW. We know we have the best and are loving it. My sincere wish is that you can make the '3rd down conversion' with this man from porn to classy erotica shared between the 2 of you.

I wish you the best.

This is the equivalent of advising someone whose husband is a raging alcoholic to mix up a pitcher of martinis and share it with him.

There's lots of ways to spice up your sex life without resorting to porn, whether you want to term it hardcore or "erotica".

 

[hypnotistcollector]

This is the equivalent of advising someone whose husband is a raging alcoholic to mix up a pitcher of martinis and share it with him.

There's lots of ways to spice up your sex life without resorting to porn, whether you want to term it hardcore or "erotica".

Now don't be a buzz kill but tell us some of the ways.

 

[Man For All Seasons]

Now don't be a buzz kill but tell us some of the ways.

I'm just as much of a buzz kill as reality is. You can deny reality, but you still have to deal with it sooner or later.

Keep changing things up, locations, positions, order of sexual acts, indulge the senses in different ways etc.

All it takes is a little imagination and some thought. You don't need explicit porn.

 

[hypnotistcollector]

I'm just as much of a buzz kill as reality is. You can deny reality, but you still have to deal with it sooner or later.

Keep changing things up, locations, positions, order of sexual acts, indulge the senses in different ways etc.

All it takes is a little imagination and some thought. You don't need explicit porn.

I'm dealing with it now, baby, and the reality is I love to use my imagination in many different ways and erotica, watching, thinking, doing or being, makes me HOT! Who are you to judge?

 

[Man For All Seasons]

I'm dealing with it now, baby, and the reality is I love to use my imagination in many different ways and erotica, watching, thinking, doing or being, makes me HOT! Who are you to judge?

I'm an intelligent, mature adult who is interested in effective solutions to problems. That's who I am to judge.

The topic of this thread is porn addiction. Like any other addiction, more of the addictive substance is the last thing people need.

Lot's of people can use some porn and not get into big trouble, just like some people can drink and not get into big trouble. But people with addictive personalities should do neither.

Who knows if the OP is legit? It doesn't really matter, the question put on the table is still the same. I'm concerned about what is best for the long term health and happiness of those concerned as individuals and as a family. I'm concerned about what is best for the marriage and for the kids.

A guy with a porn addiction isn't doing himself and certainly not his wife and kids any favors.

If you are looking for a "go with the flow" "anything goes" kind of guy. I'm not it. I'm into reality, not political correctness. Porn ain't a good thing. It hurts marriages far more than it's ever helped them. I'm into judging BEHAVIOR, not necessarily people, but judge I will because I care about people and I'm not going to just stand by as they skip their way to disaster.

 

[Breakingnews]

I'd love to watch porn with GG.

 

[libluvsbukkake]

I'm just as much of a buzz kill as reality is. You can deny reality, but you still have to deal with it sooner or later.

Keep changing things up, locations, positions, order of sexual acts, indulge the senses in different ways etc.

All it takes is a little imagination and some thought. You don't need explicit porn.

You do when your wife is over 200 lbs and smells. LOT'S OF IT!

 

[libluvsbukkake]

I'd love to watch porn with GG.

I would love to MAKE porn with GG!

 

[Vagitarian]

I would love to MAKE porn with GG!

Heh! Maybe we should take turns as actor and cameraman?